IFEELFIVE

A question game for you, for two, or more

Let’s play IFEELFIVE.

Play on your own, with one person, or put the phone in the middle of the table. Draw a card, answer, listen. Small, concrete questions across all four pillars, and now and then a “Name it” card: everyone finds the word for how they feel right now on the feelings wheel, and says why. For just you, couples, friends, families or teams.

Who is playing?

Youngest player?

How deep?

Want more?

Three rules

  1. Anyone can pass. No reason needed.
  2. Listen, don’t fix. No advice, just one follow-up question (the listening compass).
  3. What’s said here stays here.

Nothing is stored or sent. The game runs on this phone only.

Prefer paper?

Print the cards, cut them out and keep them on the table, in the car or for the next team offsite.

Question cards (PDF)Feelings wheel (PDF)

Question sets: Instead of "How was school?" · Deep questions for couples · Questions for friends · Team check-in questions

All 56 cards

Read them first, or pick one.

Every card in the game, by who you are asking. Tap “Share this card” to send one question to someone.

For yourself

  • Self · LightWhat does my body need most right now?Instead of “How am I?”Share this card
  • Self · LightWhat gave me energy today, and what took it?Instead of “Good day?”Share this card
  • Social · DeeperWho did I really listen to this week?Instead of “Am I a good friend?”Share this card
  • Work · DeeperWhat did I do today that I'd still be glad about in a year?Instead of “Was I productive?”Share this card
  • Purpose · DeeperWhat would I keep doing even if nobody saw it?Instead of “Is this the right path?”Share this card
  • Self · DeepIf this feeling could talk, what would it ask me for?Instead of “Why do I feel like this?”Share this card
  • Purpose · DeepWhat did I do this week that felt like me?Instead of “What's the point?”Share this card
  • Social · DeepWho do I feel most like myself with? When did I last see them?Instead of “Do people like me?”Share this card

For kids

  • Social · LightWho made you laugh today, and with what?Instead of “How was school?”Share this card
  • Social · LightWhat was the best moment of your day? And the hardest?Instead of “Did you have a good day?”Share this card
  • Self · LightIf today were weather, what would it be?Instead of “Are you tired?”Share this card
  • Social · DeeperWho did you sit with at lunch? What did you talk about?Instead of “Do you have friends?”Share this card
  • Work · DeeperWhat did you learn today that surprised you?Instead of “What did you learn?”Share this card
  • Purpose · DeeperIf you could teach the whole class something, what would it be?Instead of “What do you want to be?”Share this card
  • Social · DeepWas there a moment today when you felt left out?Instead of “Is everything okay?”Share this card
  • Self · DeepWhere in your body do you feel it? What would help a little?Instead of “Why are you upset?”Share this card

For the whole family

  • Self · LightWhat made you smile today?Instead of “Was it a good day?”Share this card
  • Social · LightWho was kind to you today?Instead of “Was everyone nice?”Share this card
  • Self · LightIf you were an animal today, which one would you be? Why?Instead of “How are you?”Share this card
  • Purpose · LightWhat are you looking forward to tomorrow?Instead of “Anything planned?”Share this card
  • Social · DeeperWho would you like to give a hug right now?Instead of “Do you miss anyone?”Share this card
  • Self · DeeperWhat was a little bit hard today?Instead of “Was it okay?”Share this card
  • Work · DeeperWhat did you help with today?Instead of “Did you do your jobs?”Share this card
  • Work · LightWhat made you forget the time today?Instead of “Was it boring?”Share this card
  • Purpose · DeeperWhat did you do this week that you are proud of?Instead of “Did you do well?”Share this card
  • Self · DeeperWhen did you feel brave this week?Instead of “Were you scared?”Share this card
  • Social · DeeperIf you could change one rule at home, which one, and why?Instead of “Any complaints?”Share this card
  • Purpose · DeeperWho do you look up to, and what about them?Instead of “Who's your favourite?”Share this card
  • Purpose · DeepWhat is something you changed your mind about this year?Instead of “What do you think?”Share this card
  • Social · DeepWhat do you wish the others at this table understood better?Instead of “Everything fine?”Share this card
  • Self · DeepWhen did you last feel really like yourself?Instead of “Are you okay?”Share this card
  • Social · DeepWhat would you like more of in our family, and what less?Instead of “Are you happy?”Share this card

For your partner

  • Social · LightWhat were the best ten minutes of your day?Instead of “How was your day?”Share this card
  • Social · LightWhat made you smile today that I don't know about yet?Instead of “Anything new?”Share this card
  • Self · DeeperWhat is taking up the most space in your head right now?Instead of “Are you okay?”Share this card
  • Social · DeeperWhen did you feel closest to me this week?Instead of “Do you still love me?”Share this card
  • Purpose · DeeperWhat would make this weekend feel like ours?Instead of “What should we do this weekend?”Share this card
  • Social · DeepIs there something you'd like more of from me, or less of?Instead of “Is something wrong?”Share this card
  • Purpose · DeepWhat do you want us to still be doing when we're old?Instead of “Where do you see us in five years?”Share this card
  • Self · DeepWhat part of your life feels most like you right now? Which part least?Instead of “Are you happy?”Share this card

For friends

  • Social · LightWhat's the best thing that happened to you since we last talked?Instead of “What's up?”Share this card
  • Self · LightWhat are you looking forward to right now?Instead of “Busy?”Share this card
  • Purpose · DeeperWhat did you do this week that felt like you?Instead of “How's life?”Share this card
  • Work · DeeperIf you could change one thing about your work tomorrow, what would it be?Instead of “How's work?”Share this card
  • Social · DeeperWho do you miss? What's stopping you from calling them?Instead of “Seen anyone lately?”Share this card
  • Self · DeepWhat's been heavy lately that you haven't told anyone?Instead of “All good?”Share this card
  • Purpose · DeepWhat would you try if you knew nobody would judge you?Instead of “Any plans?”Share this card
  • Social · DeepWhat do you need from a friend right now: advice, company or just someone who listens?Instead of “We should meet up.”Share this card

For your team

  • Work · LightOne word from the feelings wheel for how you start this meeting?Instead of “How are you?”Share this card
  • Work · LightWhat went better this week than you expected?Instead of “Any updates?”Share this card
  • Work · DeeperWhat took more energy today than it was worth?Instead of “How was work?”Share this card
  • Work · DeeperWhat is one thing I could stop doing that would help you?Instead of “Do you need anything?”Share this card
  • Work · DeeperWhat worries you about this project that nobody has said out loud yet?Instead of “Is the project on track?”Share this card
  • Work · DeepWhen did you last feel proud of your work here? What made it possible?Instead of “Are you happy here?”Share this card
  • Purpose · DeepWhat would you like to be known for in this team a year from now?Instead of “Where do you see yourself?”Share this card
  • Social · DeepWho on this team deserves a thank-you they haven't heard yet?Instead of “How's the team?”Share this card

Questions people ask

What is Let's play IFEELFIVE?

A free question game in the browser: you draw cards with small, concrete questions across Self, Social, Work and Purpose, answer honestly and listen. Every few cards a 'Name it' card sends you to the feelings wheel to find the word for how you feel right now. With 'Feel it too', every answer names its feeling.

Can I play it alone?

Yes. Choose 'Just me' and the cards become questions to ask yourself. You are the one asking and the one answering, which is what reflection is.

Can children play?

Yes. Pick the age of the youngest player (6–9, 10–12, 13–15 or 16+). Under 16 the deck switches to simple questions everyone at the table can answer, and the feelings wheel shows fewer, simpler words. Children can also play alone with 'Just me'.

What are good deep questions for couples or friends?

Questions that ask for a moment instead of a verdict work best, for example 'What made you laugh today, and with what?' instead of 'How was your day?'. The game has light, deeper and deep cards for partners, friends, families and teams.

Is it free, and do I need an app?

It is free, with no app and no sign-up. Nothing is stored or sent; the game runs on your phone only. You can also print the cards as a PDF.

How do we play?

Pick who is playing and how deep you want to go, then draw a card. Anyone can pass, nobody gives advice, just one follow-up question, and what is said stays at the table.

A new question every Friday?

One question for the weekend, to ask the people you love, plus the Sunday note. Free, unsubscribe with one click.