Ask this instead of “How was your day?”
Tired of “Fine.”? Swap one question.
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In short
General questions get general answers. Swap one question tonight: instead of "How was your day?" ask "What were the best ten minutes of your day?" Instead of "How was school?" ask "Who made you laugh today?" Instead of "What's up?" ask "What's the best thing that happened since we last talked?"
Instead of “How was your day?”
Ask: What were the best ten minutes of your day?
A short, specific window brings back a real moment. Try this: ask it tonight and share your own ten minutes too.
Instead of “How was school?”
Ask: Who made you laugh today?
Children remember funny moments better than whole days. Try this: ask it on the way home or at bedtime.
Instead of “What's up?”
Ask: What's the best thing that happened since we last talked?
It invites a story instead of a status update. Try this: open your next message to a friend with it.
Why not try one tonight?
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Want a real answer tonight? Swap one question.
Instead of, how was your day, ask: what were the best ten minutes of your day?
Instead of, how was school, ask: who made you laugh today?
Instead of, what's up, ask: what's the best thing that happened since we last talked?
Why not try one tonight?
I feel five. Everything else is noise.
Questions people ask
Why do people always answer “fine”?
Broad questions are hard to answer quickly, so "fine" is the easy reply. A small, specific question makes a real answer easier.
Where can I find more questions like these?
ifeelfive.com/play has 56 free question cards for couples, friends, families and teams, no sign-up needed.